Relationships: The Prequel

The age-old question that everyone always keeps asking is: What makes a relationship work? Is it communication? Is it compatibility? Is it wanting the other person to understand how you feel and think?

All of these things can be true. However, how are we supposed to know when we first start dating a person? Is that person right for us? Do they match our vibe? Are they cool peoples?

In today's world, it's hard to be able to talk to people and find someone to talk to. Introverts rule the nation.

That's why so many social media apps are on fire right now.

See, it's easy to be able to open up an app and find someone with this swipe of your finger. Is it convenient? Sure. Is it practical sometimes,? Maybe.

I don't know about you, but me as a woman out in the wild, I get a lot of people staring at me. Rather than coming up to talk to me, they gawk and make me feel uncomfortable. Like come on, say something! Don't you stare at me like a total creep and expect me to wanna come up to you and talk.

I know women can be intimidating, however, most of us just want someone to treat us like human beings. Not ogres that just came out of their swamp.

This also poses the question: Should men approach women or should women approach men?

Now I get it, we're in the 21st century and men don't necessarily have to do what they did about 60-70 years ago. Us women have made it clear that we don't need men to be able to function in our daily lives. I mean, they are nice, but we are intelligent humans that can handle our own shit.

I want my man because he gives me that kind of love that goes beyond just loving myself. I feel it's important to at least have some self-awareness and self-respect before you get into a relationship. Otherwise you're going to start projecting your insecurities on your significant other. And frankly, that's scary.

We all have our days where we don't feel as confident as we once did. But if this is your personality 24/7, it's going to be hard for you to keep a relationship going. Personally, I say bring back non-creepy flirting in public areas that are or can be reciprocated.

Oh, and guys, if a woman says "No thank you." or just "No", TAKE IT AND LEAVE IT. She(or he) doesn't owe you anything!

Now with that being said, I have TONS of dating tips just by experiencing things and or watching from a far. I'm not going to give them where they're not wanted, but more on that later.

In short, men and women don't have to be robots on a screen to bond.

Go outside, get some fresh air. Mingle.

Disclaimer: this doesn't apply to long distance relationships. I'm talking you're a block away talking only via facetime.

We are not meant to depend on a phone, tablet or computer to be the only determining factor of your love life.

But Stacia, didn't you meet your fiancée on Tinder?"

Eeehhh, WE DON'T TALK ABOUT THAT!

No, but really. I realize that i wouldn't probably have met my soon-to-be husband if i didn't swipe right. And I'm glad i did. He's the light of my life (even if he's a pain in the butt sometimes). And that's okay. He's introverted and it doesn't matter to me. I just wish he could go out on a drive with me and talk rather than be on his devices. That's why I wish I met him outside of "The app".

It's funny how life plays out, and you're entitled to your own story/fairytale. Don't let my opinion sway you differently to not wanna meet new people. Just go outside your room that smells like pizza and despair and talk to someone new.

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