Families Matter
It was the 1970s..., my grandparents were about to move into their first and forever home. My dad was born and my uncle and well... I'm just f**king with you. That's not where this story begins.
Families. We all have them whether we choose them or not(unless you didn't have one which that's okay, I hope you find peace and a home within yourself)
It's a hard subject when you're passing around the cranberry sauce and the green beans at the Thanksgiving table. Your dad or mom side eyes you waiting to bring up all your shortcomings since birth. But think of it this way, you're better off just "listening" and try not to hurl mashed potatoes across the room to stop the conversation. We put up with alot of sh*t as children of either strict or just straight traumatic family life. We try to do what's right but it always seems to get thwarted by Sara's perfect credit score and Stewart's perfect track record of charity events.
I've had my fair share of family arguments and fights to know, If you are dealing with a narcissist, just let it go. They don't get it. Walk away and never return to the topic, they just don't get it.
When you deal with people you love or just people you tolerate, you get a lot of emotions trying to tell them your feelings. But I can assure you, if they want to listen (and understand) they would. You don't have to force the topic because they keep nagging you about your job that's "never gonna make you money." Instead, just try to be there for them and keep your distance emotionally and verbally. You have what it takes to make your life YOURS, whether you're an artist like me or a gamer on Twitch. As long as you're secure in what you're doing and you have plans that stretch to the future, near or far, you are Gucci.
To some people, money is not everything. It's the freedom and joy you have knowing this is what your life is now or may be for the rest of your life. Some people want stability. Maybe in having a family, a stable career, or just helping out those in need. That's where the idea of family comes full circle. It doesn't matter what patterns your parent's or guardians gave you throughout your childhood. You have the chance to break them or make them apart of you. I wish to give my kids what I never had. Not just materialistic things, but emotionally.
Compassion, empathy and respect are things that should be a no brainer to us living on this Earth. Caring about how our actions effect others is a skill that can be taught, but can also be implemented at a young age. When I look back, I want to be able to read this and self reflect. Did I do everything that I could do as a parent to help my child develop into a wonderful person? Do I have what it takes to raise a child in this already f**ked up world?
That's what I'm scared of.
Having the world raise my kid instead of me. It shouldnt be how we develop as a working class society. Human decency shouldn't be an option. Sure we can take the Nature vs. Nurture debate to the next level and talk about how influence could be just as strong of an argument to both (What we see is beyond nature)
More on that later.
I'm just saying, whatever they puttin in that social media juice is definitely working on us, especially what I said in my last article.
We have to step up as the future generations of parenting and prove those naysaying Boomers wrong.
If you're already a parent, ask yourself: Am I doing everything I can to not only be the best parent I can be, but the best person I can be to myself?
Self care, love, and respect also matter in how we treat our family members. Insecurities can sometimes put a damper on our moods at family game night when you flip a table and smash the game pieces because you lost the game you said you were the best at.
Or maybe you just got into a fight over which person gets to be the top hat because you're always the top hat.
Either or, check your attitude and your internal feelings at the door. We don't want to hear how we never do anything all day (while clearly doing something) because you had a bad day at work. That's not your child's problem. They're not the b*tch at your job that told the boss you weren't doing your job right.
Let your kids be kids. Give them respect while still teaching them how to do what they're supposed to do without arguing or acting out. Respect is earned, not freely given.
With all that said, we are going to do fiiine, I have absolutely no doubts...at all...😅🥲
